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If I was your 99, I would:
1. don't buy you anything (include 對龍鳳手鐲). It is because I don't think you (your parents) will say thank you to her.
2. won't give you $ even I was so rich
3. ask your mother: how much do you幫your daughter 儲? 點解個daughter咁大都無幫佢儲 $ to buy a flat for her marry?
4. don't want any tables, and won't invite any relatives to your wedding
5. most important, please move out (don't live in my flat) after you get marry!!!!!!!!!

May I ask: are you after 80's ?

原帖由 SummerLuLu 於 10-3-23 13:11 發表
你地入門時99有咩表示?

同男友準備結婚當中
,因為有左bb
所以係突然要攪

我們積蓄不多,但屋企人話要攪大佢
未來99話要7圍,但他一分錢都無,結婚費用我們自己出晒,禮金都係
未來99話過大禮唔識攪,椰子唔知邊度買,叫我們自己買
我媽好不滿未來99,點解個仔咁大都無幫佢儲老婆本,以前仲成日拿個仔的錢
(之前我男友試過中六合彩幾萬,未來99出聲話要一半)
但佢買左對龍鳳手鐲比我,我同我媽媽講,我媽媽問我幾粗,我說1cm左右
我媽就話咁幼不如唔好買,
現在我媽成日在我面前數未來99,我左右做人難
他無錢比個仔結婚我無意見,但我媽媽覺得佢係唔肯拿出來
比媽媽講得多,怕自己對未來99有偏見...
始終我地結婚後要同住...好擔心

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發表於 10-3-23 13:25 |顯示全部帖子

It is because she is those groups after 80's. (I think)

原帖由 Siuchoi 於 10-3-23 13:18 發表
我同c6當年結婚, 所有$都係自己比架喎, 點解要父母比$結婚呀??

[ 本帖最後由 ac321 於 10-3-23 13:27 編輯 ]

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i.e. you don't want to take your mother's money, but want to take your 99's money?
Therefore, your 99 is so 'bad' as :
1. 但他一分錢都無,結婚費用我們自己出晒,禮金都係

2. 但佢買左對龍鳳手鐲比我, but it is too small, 我媽就話咁幼不如唔好買,

3. 點解個仔咁大都無幫佢儲老婆本,

right?

原帖由 SummerLuLu 於 10-3-23 13:37 發表
我諗你係偏激左少少囉,唔好斷章取義話人地亞媽
我媽真係有儲夠一層樓的錢比我
係我唔要

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If you don't want 大攪, just follow your will.
What you need is: inform your 99 what you are doing with your husband. You don't need to follow your 99's idea.
However, don't live with your 99 after marry. If your mother has already prepear a flat for you, don't live in your 99's flat. I am sure you will be unhappy if you live with your 99.

原帖由 SummerLuLu 於 10-3-23 13:34 發表
我無講過結婚要99拿錢出來,問題係佢地聽到要結婚就話要大攪,我地話無錢,佢就話擺酒係賺唔會蝕
我地本身諗住少少積蓄會留給個細路,但99堅持話要攪我地都想佢開心d就攪
但我地要兩個月之內攪好晒,真係好多濕碎野要攪, ...

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If you think that your 99 is correct (我重申無話過要99出錢),
i.e. 我明白我媽係有點偏激, 我媽咁諗野不停灌輸我呢d觀點,我怕自己吸收左,第日個心會仍住,擔心同住有問題
I would tell you that: don't worry about it.
No one can change your 觀點, but only yourself can!

原帖由 SummerLuLu 於 10-3-23 13:52 發表
我重申無話過要99出錢
你指出個三點係我媽既觀點,我只係想講我媽咁諗野不停灌輸我呢d觀點,我怕自己吸收左,第日個心會仍住,擔心同住有問題
我明白我媽係有點偏激,我亦都有係我媽面前幫99講說話,但老人家主觀意願係好 ...

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發表於 10-3-24 13:11 |顯示全部帖子

I never say all 80后 are like her. I am asking her does she belongs to the 80后 (or not) ? Please read carefully!!!!!

Also, this reply is based on her first post.
She never said that she agree with 結婚唔應該要父母出錢 in her first post. She just talk about what her 99 give / do for her wedding. And her mother complain about her 99. And then, she ask other sisters what your 99 gave/did for you in your wedding.

Most important, she never said that she disagree with her mother in her first topic!!!!

Please read carefully again.
This if for your reference: her fist post

你地入門時99有咩表示?

同男友準備結婚當中,因為有左bb

所以係突然要攪

我們積蓄不多,但屋企人話要攪大佢

未來99話要7圍,但他一分錢都無,結婚費用我們自己出晒,禮金都係

未來99話過大禮唔識攪,椰子唔知邊度買,叫我們自己買

我媽好不滿未來99,點解個仔咁大都無幫佢儲老婆本,以前仲成日拿個仔的錢

(之前我男友試過中六合彩幾萬,未來99出聲話要一半)

但佢買左對龍鳳手鐲比我,我同我媽媽講,我媽媽問我幾粗,我說1cm左右

我媽就話咁幼不如唔好買,

現在我媽成日在我面前數未來99,我左右做人難

他無錢比個仔結婚我無意見,但我媽媽覺得佢係唔肯拿出來

比媽媽講得多,怕自己對未來99有偏見...

始終我地結婚後要同住...好擔心

原帖由 大豬既老婆 於 10-3-24 12:20 發表

80后踩親你條尾？
我想話唔系個個80后都系咁，你要針對一個case黎講就算，做咩要一竹竿打曬一船人？

何況，我雖然認同結婚唔應該要父母出錢，但唔該你睇清楚樓主既問題 --》比媽媽講得多,怕自己對未來99有偏見...始終我地結婚 ...

[ 本帖最後由 ac321 於 10-3-24 13:17 編輯 ]

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I never say: 你覺得系80后先會有咁既想法 (this is what you said).

not all the 80后會有咁既想法, some of the 70后,60后50后,40后30后,20后,10后..... (and more more more, is that ok???????? please don't

me if I forger those groups in 18xx 后..........

)
However, the % of 80后會有咁既想法 is higher than 70后,60后.

I think she is the 80后. It is because when I ask her is she the 80后, she haven't answer me (this part only).

意思好明顯系覺得 “系80后先會有結婚要父母出錢既想法"。 => this is what you said, not my words.
我只想指出，你可以針對樓主既問題，但同距系60后70后80后定90后根本無關係。=> why not related? the % of 80后 or 90后 agree with this point: 結婚要父母出錢既想法 is higher than 60后 or 70后!

I know what is her porblem.
Do you know why I gave her such reply?
It is because she is looking at the case in her mother's eyes only. Therefore, she worry that:距媽咪對距講既野會影響距. However, if she can look at the case in her 99's eyes at the same time, then she can find the answer more easily.

原帖由 大豬既老婆 於 10-3-24 13:20 發表

系，你無話80后一定系咁，但你一睇人地個post，就猛咁問人地系唔系80后，又話覺得距系80后，意思好明顯系你覺得系80后先會有咁既想法。

雖然，距無話唔同意自己媽咪講，但距都無話同意姐，again，我覺得距個問題系---》比媽媽講得多,怕自己對未來99有偏見...始終我地結婚後要同住...好擔心

重點系距擔心距媽咪對距講既野會影響距。咁好明顯距都唔系完全同意媽咪所講既野，先會有咁既顧慮。

我好同意你所講結婚唔靠父母，但我覺得你話--》It is because she is those groups after 80's. (I think)

意思好明顯系覺得 “系80后先會有結婚要父母出錢既想法"。我只想指出，你可以針對樓主既問題，但同距系60后70后80后定90后根本無關係。

[ 本帖最後由 ac321 於 10-3-24 14:00 編輯 ]

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from your reply, I think you are one of the 80后.
Therefore, you feel that I am talking about you and angry about my reply, is that right?
Even you argue with me here about the80后, however, you can't change the world - for the view to those 80后.
relax la!

原帖由 大豬既老婆 於 10-3-24 13:20 發表
系，你無話80后一定系咁，但你一睇人地個post，就猛咁問人地系唔系80后，又話覺得距系80后，意思好明顯系你覺得系80后先會有咁既想法。

雖然，距無話唔同意自己媽咪講，但距都無話同意姐，again，我覺得距個問題系---》比媽媽講得多, ...

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me too - 我坐系屋企好舒服咁on緊line。However, I am looking at my son at the same time: he is drawing.
I should go out to ride bicycle with my son now.
nice to talk to you - and let me know more about the 80's.
bye

原帖由 大豬既老婆 於 10-3-24 14:11 發表

我系80后。

不過，我唔同意其他人一竹竿打曬一船人。我唔會覺得自己可以改變其他人既想法咁天真，但如果我見到，我會講出黎囖。因為你咁講，作為80后的確覺得offensive。等於如果有人話 ‘女人真系特別麻煩' 我一樣覺得offensive。

我無唔relax窩，我坐系屋企好舒服咁on緊line。
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