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發表於 14-5-7 19:12 |只看該作者 |倒序瀏覽 |打印

唔知我古老定係宜家小朋友早熟，咁快想識呢d野，我哋禁止佢再用ipad,除咗做功課外，你哋會點做?

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發表於 14-5-8 00:09 |只看該作者

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他可能純粹好奇，未係沉迷…絕對可以糾正。

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林嬌嬌發表於 14-5-8 00:09
他可能純粹好奇，未係沉迷…絕對可以糾正。

Sorry at work and can't type Chinese.

We asked him why he liked watching that. He said he wanted to learn how to make love with girls. We told him he is too young and he shouldn't be doing that until after he's married (because we are a Christian family.)

To our shock, he said he has a girlfriend at school and they have been kissing each other, sharing stories of what happened at home, exchanging love words. He said all his classmates know already. It seems that my wife and I are the only ignorant ones.

His girlfriend is a smart kid in the class. They are good partners in in-class projects. Our son is good at presenting and marketing ideas while she's very innovative. There is no sign of their academics falling behind.

Sigh! He's turning 10 in a couple of months, but we think it's still way too early to start this kind of relationships.

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九歲大仔上youtube睇naked girl同sex,點算?

唔知我古老定係宜家小朋友早熟，咁快想識呢d野，我哋禁止佢再用ipad,除咗做功課外，你哋會點做?

Sorry I posted this earlier on another page and there weren't too many responses.

Sorry at work and can't type Chinese.

We asked him why he liked watching that. He said he wanted to learn how to make love with girls. We told him he is too young and he shouldn't be doing that until after he's married (because we are a Christian family.)

To our shock, he said he has a girlfriend at school and they have been kissing each other, sharing stories of what happened at home, exchanging love words. He said all his classmates know already. It seems that my wife and I are the only ignorant ones.

His girlfriend is a smart kid in the class. They are good partners in in-class projects. Our son is good at presenting and marketing ideas while she's very innovative. There is no sign of their academics falling behind.

Sigh! He's turning 10 in a couple of months, but we think it's still way too early to start this kind of relationships.

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發表於 14-5-8 08:21 |只看該作者

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既然佢對性已經有一定旣認知，就不妨早d灌輸佢正確旣性教育。

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—向有冇性教育？
如果有講開，他應該知什麼是性行為。可能他想知practical skill !
1St point, 在hk, 與below 16歲人士發生性為是犯法；
2nd point, 性行為是會製造baby, Is he ready to be a father ? In turns , he will lost his teenage !
提醒他這年紀心智未成熟，又未有自立能力，只是身體成熟，如果思想已出軌，要訓練自制！行為上不能犯法的！

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tenkamuteki77 發表於 14-5-8 08:21
既然佢對性已經有一定旣認知，就不妨早d灌輸佢正確旣性教育。

My wife and I disagree with each other on this point. She thinks I should only teach him about the sex organs and functions. The problem is: our son already knows all that through reading books in the school library. He's more interested in knowing about having sex in different ways, etc.

I'm more inclined to give him proper books or videos (not pornography) so he won't get the wrong information or become tempted to try things himself with his girlfriend.

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林嬌嬌發表於 14-5-8 08:55
—向有冇性教育？
如果有講開，他應該知什麼是性行為。可能他想知practical skill !
1St point, 在hk, 與be ...

Yes, we had given him some sex education (limited to sex organs and functions because my wife didn't like the idea of teaching him all about sex). He knows all about it but you are right, he wants to learn "how to do it".

We live overseas. Our sons were born here. The law here is strange. It is similar to HK. But, if you had two under-16 year old having sex with each other, there would not be any criminal consequence.

We taught him about the Christian life and virtues. Hopefully these will sink in his mind. The problem is: he also knows that he is not in puberty, so he will not make any girl pregnant at his age. Our son likes reading a lot of books and has a strong photographic memory. His "junk" knowledge is sometimes better than us. All we told him is that having sex (in whatever form) with a girl (including his girlfriend) is unacceptable in terms of our morality.

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bring him more real life consequence of having sex too early.
However, as he is not yet puberty, he should be toooo curious !
one solution I suggest , making him busy, joining scouts , do more sport etc

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發表於 14-5-16 20:30 |只看該作者

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Just because you are a christian you trully believe that your son should not know sex more than biology. The truth is your son has already learnt more than what you can accept. Now you choose to ignore and just pray that your son will suddenly get brainwashed and change back to the very pure son you is dreaming of.

Come on, don't fool yourself. You don't want your son to learn about sex by practicing with his gf while he is only 10.

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發表於 14-5-17 14:23 |只看該作者

Kids are interested in relationship as that is also part of peers pressure, symbolize as reaching adult stage or some superiour feeling. Through movie, advertisement, it gives kids especially girls about love is that someone becomes your big fans who will do everythings for u.someone you adore involving kiss and then sex,they thought sex is a lot of excitement without responsibilities. Then start giving him more physical involved housework..he should keep doing routinely and more and more, not for occupying hia time but to let him know responsibilities would also include something he doesnt like to do.

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Since you’re Christisns, please study Genesis with your son in detail. The act of sex symbolizes love and unity. It is intended for a couple who have left their parents and be united as one “人要離開父母，二人成為一體” The joy of sex is designed for the expression of love, it is intended for bringing about offsprings and hence family. The most important point here is that if a woman willingly gives her virginity to a man, no matter what will happen in the future, she is emotionally attached to the man, “你必戀慕你的丈夫”, and they have responsibility toward each other. It is time to mentor your boy into a responsible young man. God bless.

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goodsnooky Thx for the suggestion. Totally agree with you! 發表於 14-5-19 09:44

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係5係睇錯？如果佢堅係睇呢D,就explain俾佢聽.

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applebbchu 發表於 14-5-18 23:37
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係5係睇錯？如果佢堅係睇呢D,就explain俾佢聽.

It is for real because we tracked the browsing history and the youtube search history.

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發表於 14-5-22 13:38 |只看該作者

本帖最後由小余於 14-5-22 13:41 編輯

如果你和太太有按聖經的教導守住身體直至結婚，你們也可以分享一下你們當初的掙扎給他知道. -- 有什麼動力促使你們的堅持,遇過的試探和得勝之道, 給他聽.

即或不是,你也可以跟他談談你們現在再看這些婚前性行為的感受.

這麼聰明的孩子,可能除了"忍耐"之外,真的沒有什麼難倒他們.

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小余發表於 14-5-22 13:38
如果你和太太有按聖經的教導守住身體直至結婚，你們也可以分享一下你們當初的掙扎給他知道. -- 有什麼動力 ...

Thanks for your advice. My wife and I borrowed a proper sex education book from the public library. We went through some details with our son. We gave him the positive message about sex. We also gave him the confidence to ask us questions about sex, rather than going to research on the internet. If we don't know the answer, we will accompany him and research the proper information through the internet (with adult material screening software).

At the end of the day, he is still a kid. As you suggested, being patient is important. He sometimes out-smarts us.

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goodsnooky 發表於 14-5-26 08:53
Thanks for your advice. My wife and I borrowed a proper sex education book from the public library ...

Agree with this point of view. Let's find the answer together and understand his questions, rather than letting him searching in Internet!

We need an wider perspective in taking about this issue with kids, though we think he is too young to learn this. Now the world is different from our generation!

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發表於 14-7-11 16:02 |只看該作者

早D教育佢會好D

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發表於 14-7-11 17:53 |只看該作者

自然成長過程, 我們以前不是一樣嗎?
灌輸正確性教育有幫肋.

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