Please don't have another kid. Otherwise, you will end up in my situation. I am 36 with 3 kids (6.5 / 3.5 / almost 2 years old). My c6 was ok with one child only. When I planned to have 2nd child, I was worrying if we all die, our only child will not have any family member left in the world. My brothers might not have kids and my c6 is the only child. Many of our relatives are living overseas.
My c6 does not help on any kid stuff. He is a selfish person who only considers for himself only. When he goes out with us, he walks straight from room to door. He does not carry kids or their belongings. He does not shop for baby care things. I bought everything from my pregnancy to present. People were shocked to see pregnant woman carrying many bags on the street, but this is my life.
When my 2nd baby was only a few months old, my c6 likes to pull the baby on the floor. He didn't like the baby. Taking care of 2 kids is a lot more difficult. One child cries will wake the other one, so it will end up 2 kids crying at the same time. Even I have Philipino helpers, they always bring troubles.
My 3nd pregnancy was an accident. My c6 convinced me to have abortion, but the fetus survived. Its heartbeat was very strong, so I decided not to kill it. My c6 was not very nice to his baby either. For example, he threw cushion to the baby to threaten him.
I become a full-time mom because I lost my job 9 months ago. I plan to work again in 6 months. Not to talk about money, the physical and mental pressure of raising 3 kids are heavy. My c6 is still living in his world. He occasionally helps to punish the kids, but he does not help much on the good things. For example, I noticed our maid is not feeding the youngest kid right. I told c6 that I can't watch 3 kids eating at the same time, and I asked him to watch the youngest one for me. All he needs to do is to spy the maid. My previous maids pretended feeding my kids, but the food dropped either on the table or floor. Spying is not a difficult job, but my c6 didn't have interest.
These are a few samples in my marriage history. I can write a book. The biggest problem is I can't divorce my c6 because I must retain a complete family for my kids.