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公務員人工好好亦好穩定，不過我個部門成日要返shift, 成日要返早放晏，又有風更，所以星期一至五都係得好少時間可以見到bb，我好想可以多d時間陪佢成長，所以好想resign搵份半職or freelance（我識翻譯）。

我今年剛返夠10年，夠資格攞pension，老公都係公務員，不過佢唔支持我唔做，因為佢話要keep返而家既收入至可以maintain到而家既生活水準，但係我每日响公司真係好掛住bb，好唔開心。我個bb而家17個月，呢個階段成長同學野都好快，我真係好唔想miss左佢呢個成長既時期，錯過左就唔會補得返。

有冇公務員媽媽轉左或者想轉做全職媽媽？不如分享下？

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-7-17 17:57 發表
公務員人工好好亦好穩定，不過我個部門成日要返shift, 成日要返早放晏，又有風更，所以星期一至五都係得好少時間可以見到bb，我好想可以多d時間陪佢成長，所以好想resign搵份半職or freelance（我識翻譯）。

我今年剛返夠10年，夠資 ...

我bb出世後都resign咗份工, 但等佢大個少少我會出番來做嘢囉! 我哋兩公婆本身都揾得唔多, 依家少咗我份收入, 我哋都係慳住洗, 基本上自己唔會點買嘢. 但可以睇住的BB成長係好難得既事.

你老公都幾好笑喎, 咩叫做maintain到依家生活水準. 佢究竟想過啲咩生活, 而且我覺得未必唔可以有番依家生活水準喎, 不過可能減少啲之嘛, 例如以前個個星期都要食buffet, 可以變做一個月一次啫, 睇你肯唔肯改.

當然你要放棄做公務員係有啲可惜, 但你老公都係公務員都ok吖, 收入又穩定. 我覺得你值得一試做全職mama, 覺得唔適合咪出返來做野囉. BB大咗就真係冇得返轉頭, 但冇咗份工就可以揾過.

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原文章由 SaSaHon 於 08-7-17 18:35 發表
你老公都幾好笑喎, 咩叫做maintain到依家生活水準.

多謝你既支持! 我諗我老公係想keep返有車有樓有錢比阿仔上playgroup同入好既學校讀書卦。其實我地唔係大使既人, 而家份量有成一半都係儲起既。我同老公講過, 我擔保可以freelance搵到夠比返而家我負責既開支至resign, 唔駛佢extra比多d錢, 只係我自己儲少d, 但係佢都唔支持。

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-7-18 10:14 發表

多謝你既支持! 我諗我老公係想keep返有車有樓有錢比阿仔上playgroup同入好既學校讀書卦。其實我地唔係大使既人, 而家份量有成一半都係儲起既。我同老公講過, 我擔保可以freelance搵到夠比返而家我負責既開支至resig ...

其實你可以有freelance都支持到你俾開的家用真係好好架, 唔係好多媽媽可以咁, 我就一定唔得lu, 你再試吓同你老公商量吓啦

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我都係做咗政府工十幾年, 但唔係長嘅, 生完放完產假才補錢走, 好唔捨得, 人工好又穩定, 以後一定揾唔番咁嘅工, 但冇辦法, 唔想請人湊, 所以最後都只有行呢條路。

我比較好, 我老公一早就希望我辭職, 只係我一直都放唔低,
1.自己番慣工, 做家庭主婦? 怪怪地!
2. 唔做嘢, 靠老公, 成日聽人講要睇人面色做人, 幸福少奶冇幾多個, 好多人都話自己揾錢馨香D, 搞到我有D心理不平衡。
3. 自己是否能做個稱職的媽媽?
4. 幾年後出番嚟做嘢, 唔知做得乜

經濟方面, 我老公成日話慳D使, 應該可以過D普通人嘅生活, 最緊要係個女有最好嘅照顧。亦都無可否認, 自己冇做嘢之後, 用錢"鏡住鏡住", 始終覺得得老公一個人揾錢, 慳D使。

雖然我唔係好識湊女, 一直都係亂湊, 但係真係好開心, 因為睇住佢大真係好得意, 我都冇諗過我咁鍾意對住佢。可能講你都唔信, 我個女自出世至今, 我哋只分開過2日, 其他時間有佢就有我, 我老公都話我好變態, 但我真係好掛住佢。

將來嘅嘢, 將來再算, 生活過得去的話, 絕對值得陪着小朋友們成長, 再過幾年他們可能也不再需要你, 這是老生常談。

尤其你們經濟不是問題, 更值得深思。

原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-7-17 17:57 發表
公務員人工好好亦好穩定，不過我個部門成日要返shift, 成日要返早放晏，又有風更，所以星期一至五都係得好少時間可以見到bb，我好想可以多d時間陪佢成長，所以好想resign搵份半職or freelance（我識翻譯）。

我今年剛返夠10年，夠資 ...

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-7-17 17:57 發表
公務員人工好好亦好穩定，不過我個部門成日要返shift, 成日要返早放晏，又有風更，所以星期一至五都係得好少時間可以見到bb，我好想可以多d時間陪佢成長，所以好想resign搵份半職or freelance（我識翻譯）。

我今年剛返夠10年，夠資 ...

你老公都係公務員, 份工有保障, 已經比很多人幸運啦.

人生有很多矛盾, 想搵多D錢俾孩子讀書學野, 但又唔想錯過她的成長階段. 不過你老公份人工ok, 無經濟問題, 你可以大條道理去湊仔.

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ahbebe88,

i have been ft mum for 2 years and how about you?

and why u need to give back money to government when u resign?

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多謝你地支持。我已經同老公再傾過一次, 不過又係嗌交收場。今次佢講左d point我之前未諗過既, e.g. 如果佢daddy退休佢要比多d家用, 而我daddy mami老左我亦要負責佢地既醫療。我都明我地既負擔遲d可能會大d, 不過我日日出門口返工, 真係好唔捨得bb。

如果可以請假兩至三年，停薪留職就好啦．．．

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剛好1年, 個女剛1歲。
因生完, 放完產假冇返工, 由復工那天計, 補番代通知金。
鬼叫之前冇計劃好!

原文章由 Ving 於 08-7-21 10:02 發表
ahbebe88,

i have been ft mum for 2 years and how about you?

and why u need to give back money to government when u resign?

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Hi Dear,

你好呀, 等我都入來傾吓, 我之前都係公務員, 但移民resign 了, 而窕再返來香港, 雖然再搵到野做, 真係好辛苦,我覺得最重要係你老公唔贊成同你日常開支都大, 唔係自己慳就得, 你知啦, 做公務員起碼放假易d, 小朋友有事易照顧, 而且有教育津貼都唔錯, 如果我就perfer做下去

原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-7-17 17:57 發表
公務員人工好好亦好穩定，不過我個部門成日要返shift, 成日要返早放晏，又有風更，所以星期一至五都係得好少時間可以見到bb，我好想可以多d時間陪佢成長，所以好想resign搵份半職or freelance（我識翻譯）。

我今年剛返夠10年，夠資 ...

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ahbebe88,

So are you initially want to hire a maid to take care your daughter and after the delivery you want to take care your B. So do you have any maid now?

I am initially also not plan to FT take care my B. But after the delivery, we would like to take good care of the B. And my job is not really good condition and so I quit. But my second half is quite support me.

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其實我根本冇諗過請工人, 家裡亦冇人可以幫我湊, 只係我之前講果幾點令我心理不平衡, 一直都唔辭工去面對現實。死、冇計劃、到時先算，係我強項

我老公就相反 , 所以佢成日激死咗!

我背同腰都傷咗, 所以一直都咩唔到bb, 年頭又扭到手婉, 我老公一直吵着要請工人幫手, 一來傷患, 二來我老公一至五都不在HK, 所以他希望多個人幫輕吓, 或等我有D時間做自己嘢。

但至今我都覺得鼎得住, 你話多人係屋企, 請工人比較合理, 得我同bb, 唉! 慳得1蚊得1蚊啦, 所以都冇請到。

其實繼續做嘢, 定照顧小朋友嘅決定, 先決當然視乎經濟條件, 而條線到底喎邊, 人人都唔同, 兩公婆真係要有共識。

我老公好鍾意小朋友, 所以一定選擇我唔做嘢, 照顧佢, 所以我一話辭職, 佢不知幾開心, 起碼唔駛煩請乜人照顧個女。佢都話冇林過我咁鍾意湊個女。

原文章由 Ving 於 08-7-21 16:33 發表

So are you initially want to hire a maid to take care your daughter and after the delivery you want to take care your B. So do you have any maid now?

I am initially also not plan to FT tak ...

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ahbebe88,

it would be good if u can handle both physically and financially instead of hiring a maid. Of course, it would be better if someone can help on the household cores and u can have more personal time.

Or if there is planning to have second children, then it would be better to have a maid for help.

But i appreciate that you can give up a high paid and stable job for your daughter. Is it common happened in Government or around your colleagues? And does your relatives support on it or not?

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冇辦法! 我老公成日都話我要求高, 又信人唔過, 就算請咗工人都會睇唔過眼, 1.做咗 2.做多次 , 所以佢都話我要先學識隻眼開, 隻眼閉, 交D嘢比人做, 唔好當自己係超人、萬能, 以為自己好捱得。

所以我公依家就算星期六、日返嚟, 都盡量希望唔駛我煮飯, 唔駛又煮又洗，咁辛苦, 減少我嘅工作量, 但係我就覺得佢好慘, 難得返嚟, 都冇住家飯食, 有朋友建議請個鐘點, 但又係果句, "我覺得重頂得住喎!"

當然生第二個就真係要請工人啦, 一個人真係搞唔掂, 但暫冇林生第二個, 冇錢養呀!

我份工高薪講唔上, 但真係穩定, 加上做咗十幾年, 有感情, 但無奈, 冇人湊, 只好自己嚟啦!

同事冇人好似我咁, 一係有屋企人湊, 一係請工人, 佢哋寧願返工, 都唔願全職湊小朋友, 寧願一有假期就陪佢地, 就係佢哋話自己揾錢馨香D, 所以搞到我之前一直心理不平衡囉!

至於親友, 佢地又幫唔到手, 你哋兩公婆嘅嘢, 搞得掂, 邊個得閒理你呀, 佢哋成日都話等個女大咗一定要出番嚟做嘢, 如果唔係會同個社會脫節, 就冇其他意見。

原文章由 Ving 於 08-7-22 00:38 發表
ahbebe88,

it would be good if u can handle both physically and financially instead of hiring a maid. Of course, it would be better if someone can help on the household cores and u can have more perso ...

[ 本文章最後由 ahbebe88 於 08-7-22 01:48 編輯 ]

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Agree that not all relatives can help even though parents.

I am also no relatives to help and rely on myself.

So are you doing contract or perm post in Government?Is the benefit good in Government?

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合約嘅! 冇乜福利, 始終都唔係長俸, 只係穩定, 你唔炒佢, 佢成世都唔炒你, 亦冇私人公司咁緊張。
剛畢業做過私人公司, 忙死!
所以做咗政府就冇轉過。

原文章由 Ving 於 08-7-22 10:07 發表
Agree that not all relatives can help even though parents.

I am also no relatives to help and rely on myself.

So are you doing contract or perm post in Government?Is the benefit good in Government? ...

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發表於 08-7-23 13:03 |只看該作者

so do you know if it is easy or difficult to re-enter your previous post several years later.

And if your requirement is high for the daily house-hold activities, do you feel very frustrated and upset, will your husband help u?

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個位做唔番啦, 個位係要做熟咗先至好做。

所謂嘅要求高, 其實都係好求其嘅, 可能我比咗個錯覺你, sorry

你唔管我, 唔搞我D嘢, 我就開心哂!!我唔鍾意掉嘢, 我老公鍾意掉嘢, 所以好搞笑, 成日為此角力, 其他清潔事務, 我老公不會太在意, ok就得!

我乜都話唔好搞, 等我嚟, 所以我老公成日話佢好似"宿友", 在此借宿一宵

我老公唔識做家務, 雖然佢話佢識, 係我唔比佢做, 但佢做完, 我想我再做一次

湊女佢只能幫你睇住, 冲凉, 餵奶, 換片, 佢唔識, 所以出世至今一直由我包辦。

eg, 上sat, 去街, 我們出街食飯, 我話試下比你餵bb食奶, 佢都話"我唔係好掂喎", (出生至今, 今次係第三次), 點知個女比佢餵到嘔奶~~~~~你話點叫佢做呀!!!

原文章由 Ving 於 08-7-23 13:03 發表
so do you know if it is easy or difficult to re-enter your previous post several years later.

And if your requirement is high for the daily house-hold activities, do you feel very frustrated and upse ...

[ 本文章最後由 ahbebe88 於 08-7-23 13:58 編輯 ]

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so how do you compare your life and econmical condition before 1 year. e.g. need to change house?, less or more money to spend?, more joy or quarrel in the family?

to me, i don't need to change house, but obviouslly less money to spend but more joy in the family

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