I think what you can do is to tell your husband bit by bit but in a mild way. Treat the issue in an objective way. Among all the issues you are unhappy about, I think the first one will really affect your bb. This one you might want to do something about it. Perhaps hire a part time maid to do the household chores? At least you get her to clean your house the way you want.
By the way, are your 6299 living wiht you guys long term or just for a short while?