Although she is not treating me bad, i feel so hurt when she said I'm fat every time she sees me. To be honest, I'm only 'fatter' than before I got pregnant, not really fat like oversized...whenever she said so, it reminds the loss of my BB...I cannot control my tears......but, I always 'hide' my feelings in front of everyone, just tears run out when I reached home...by the way, she also giving me invisible pressure (i.e. she wants to have grandchild soon)....
Thanks boobecky.....i understand that too...I actually told my c6 and said if 99 keeps saying so, I prefer not to go back for dinner (even once a week only)....until I emotionally feel better.........she sometimes says 'wa....you're a lot fatter than before'...sometimes says 'doesn't matter ge....no need to have birth control ga la'...I won't hv bb only if she wants me to...as i hate to be controlled by someone...it's just I somehow miss my BB too........the feeling is hard to describe....but still, u're right......i can choose not to see her if i don't feel comfortable.... :)
Thx to all!! :) I'm ok ga la...actually I said similar thing suggested by 蜜棗 before, of course 99 said 'no need ga la....fat siu siu no problem'....it's just everytime she says in front of everyone that I become a lot fatter je.....why today triggered me the most was, she said one of the 'aunties' said my face and body both look 'fatter' and asked if i am pregnant...on the table, no everyone was hearing what she said, and she repeated to let everyone heard it....my c6 understands i'm 'hard neck', so not daring to ask me to go back to 99's home for dinner...so i feel a lot better now!! :)
It's hard to have someone critizing your appearance after such a loss. Do something that will make you happy and not think of it usually. Sometimes, you need to let other shut up by telling them to speak something else if they won't get it. It's such an art, not everyone realize that it would hurts others if she keeps on selling something related to birth/ fat....etc.
Toby, no la...if she says my face color is better and look fatter, i'm okay...she also emphasis 'bone wider, like shoulder & hips', 'whole body looks fatter', 'face rounded a lot'........etc..that's why, I do not take it a positive comment lor...last night, originally i had to go to 99's home for dinner w/ C6, at the end I chose not to...so C6 went and said i had stomachache..when he returned home, he told me the Indo maid said to 99 'She is slimmer than before la', 99 still kept saying 'what ar, fat a lot la...', then my c6 told 99 never to say fat in front of me again, as if i wasn't preg & mis-carriaged, I wouldn't be getting fatter...always mention can trigger my emotion...c6 told my 99 that i cried at home.....so I HOPE, she won't take my look as a topic anymore and said people thought i'm preg......if i really preg, i won't tell her that i'm preg until she really can see my belly...then i can say 'I'm FAT ma'...ehhehehehe
I know the saying "time will heal all wounds" is very old, but I found that it is true in my case. Even though I still shed tears in private after so many years for what could have been.
Look after yourselves, and concentrate on your own family and happy thoughts.
Thanks sbandliz.....I am okay ga la...just once in a while little topic can trigger my emotions.....but I'm sure my babies are now the 3 little angels... (I had triplets)......I always pray for them and I trust GOD is taken good care of them....I love them forever!
I really feel for you.
I miscarried twins between B1 & B2 many years ago.
Sometimes I think maybe B2 and B3 came along to make up for what we lost before.
原帖由 cutiebee 於 10-4-6 15:56 發表
Although she is not treating me bad, i feel so hurt when she said I'm fat every time she sees me. To be honest, I'm only 'fatter' than before I got pregnant, not really fat like oversized...whenever ...
You can tell her, yes but it doesn't matter, important is I need relex & no pressure feeling to wait for my next child coming.
Then she will keep quite.
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