summer123 寫道:
看到大家開始為不到兩嵗的寶貝找學校
我也開始緊張起來
但是
我還是要告訴自己
兒孫自有兒孫福
不要太緊張
對於洋洋
我不敢期望太高
只希望他開開心心
健健康康，平平安安
雖然如此
香港這個地方真是令人步步爲營
深怕自己誤了孩子的學習
我自己是老師
以爲自己很清楚
有時
還是有‘失焦’的時候
偶爾
也會惶恐一下
好像
很多香港人
在孩子六個月大的時候
就把他們送進周末的學校
學習規矩，注意力
我沒有這樣做
但是
心中害怕
自己是不是耽誤了洋洋學習的好機會？
自己是不是一個稱職的媽媽？
自己是不是太懶惰了？
很欣賞
有些媽媽的想法
其實有時候
就要一點瀟灑
孩子和你的關係最重要
即便
他日後
功成名就
你卻和老公落寞寡歡
又
怎麽樣呢？？？
明白是一回事
真正實踐是一回事
我有時候也質問自己
我到底是要當一個怎麽樣的媽媽？？？
孩子和工作？
都要
累懷自己
選擇其一
永遠的
難以割捨
還是那一句話！
兒孫自有兒孫福
但是
我到底要扮演一個什麽樣的母親？
嚴母？慈母？
你呢？？？
toffeeli 寫道:
Hi summer123,
It is really a good question. In fact, my ultimate wish is that my son would be able to live happily. At first I think this is easy but the truth is "this is not easy at all". It is actually a very ambitious wish because this means having the best of everything.
As times goes by, I find that I am always tempted to be a demanding mother, always with an excuse to the good of my son. One of the reason is that I haven't got the crystal ball to predict the future of my son. To equip him with the "best" (which is my standard) seems to be a secure way to "guarantee" a "better" future. What is worse is that I am always tempted to compare him with other kids around....this is actually not fair.
Afterall, I think the role of parents are in fact a "guardian" to guide our child along. To guide them means that they have their own charater and identity. We should help them to develop their strength and solve their weakness....definitely not mould them to what we want. For instance, if a mother forced her child to continue to study in some famous school but the teaching style may not match him, it is definitely a 嚴母. However, if a mother is able to look for a school that suits the child's character and ability, it is a 慈母.
I always remind myself to be a 慈母 although I'm always tempted to be a 嚴母.
Many best wishes,
toffeeli
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