My maid has been working for me for 6 years and chose to go home and stay with her family in Jan 2006. I just selected a young (23 yrs) single maid from the agent today. I started worrying now. I'm afraid I will encounter similar problem. :-( :-( :-(
Is your new maid a young one or an old one and was she highly educated? The yan-yan I chose now is young (23 yrs) and finished her studies at colleage. From the agent's comments and the video there, she can speak both English and Cantonese. I chose her as I hope that she can play with my girls (5 yrs and 2 yrs) and can teach them simple English and I can also a second channel to talk to her besides Cantonese. But I worried that she may not be comforted to work as a maid after graduating from colleage.
I only got the maid from the paper files and did not have conversation with her at all. So, I don't know what's in her mind. She worked in HK for 2 years before and took care of new born BB and 1 yrs child. She left when finishing contract one year ago. Like you, I just guess she would be nice to children from this point. In fact, this is the most important thing. For English, it's just a bonus if she can initiate my girls to speak in English. You know, my elder daughter's only requirement to the new maid is, 'she can speak our language (i.e. Cantonese)'.
You are right, it's a matter of luck and thanks for your advice and blessing. Hope she's a good maid.
Your case is similar to me. My maid is capable of caring my 2 girls on her own and prepare dinner at the same time. So I can work at the office without worrying them. But after 6 years, her performance start to decline. Maybe she really miss her family and want to go back home. I employed a new maid who will arrive in Jan. Go luck to both of us.
A big problem to me as well. My 2yr-old girl has a big change without the previous maid. My daughter keeps crying all the time for a whole month after the maid left. She always show bad temper and wake up at mid night calling "TSE TSE". The new maid has come for several days, and she can play with her. When playing, my daughter is no problem. How long will my daughter get use to the new maid. I have been thinking of asking the old maid come, but she is working for another. What should I do?
Don't try to ask the old maid to work for you (although I used to think of this), as she might feel you ultimately need her and will become more bossy than you and not 100% listen of obey. You will pass this transitional period as me. My 2.5yrs old girl also cry at mid night then go to my room and I have to sleep with her until she fall asleep (of course sleep in her room not mine as want to teach her to be independant). It works after 1 month although I feel so exhausted. The result is good now, she only cry and look for me once a week. I think time is most important. Be patient.
Thank you mylee,
My husband and my mom feel the same too. I was very down before but is much better now as the new maid is OK, it's almost one month, she wakes up midnight and want me to sleep in dinning room, not even in any bedroom. Yesterday, my mum brought her and maid to her house for 2 nights, still the same, she needs my mum sleep outside the bedroom in midnight. I think she scares bedroom because she afraid of darkness. Hope time goes faster and faster.
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